1. THE GRUMBLER
The Hadith refers to the woman who always grumbles. The Prophet ﷺ said,
“O women, give charity often even if you have to give your jewelry because you form a larger number in Hell. You curse often and complain againts your husband.”¹
Thus, the woman who complains against her husband every now and then is one of Hell. We find an example of a woman from the books of history and sirah (biography of the Prophets) who was given to complain.
She was the wife of Isma’il ‘Alaihi salaam, son of Prophet Ibrahim ‘Alaihi salaam. Isma’il ‘Alaihi salaam learnt eloquent Arabic from the tribe Jurhum and married one of their women, Umarah bint Sa’d ibn Usamah ibn Akil Amalqi. His mother Hajar Radiyyallahu ‘Anha had died. One day Ibrahim ‘Alaihi salaam came to meet his son but he was not at home. He met his wife who did not know him. He asked her how they fared and she left off a pate of complaints about their low standard of living. So, he said, “When your husband comes home, convey to him my salaam and ask him to change the threshold of his home’s door.” She thought that the old man predicted better conditions for her. When her husband arrived home, he asked her if anybody had come to see him and she told him that an old man had come and she conveyed to him his message.
Isma’il ‘Alaihi salaam said, “He was my father. He has instructed me to divorce you. So you better go to your parent’s home.” He then married another woman. She was of the same tribe and her name was Sayyidah bint Madad ibn Amr Jurhami. She was a grateful woman who praised Allah often. Once again Ibrahim ‘Alaihi salaam came to meet his son but did not find him home. He asked his wife about him and she informed him that her husband had gone somewhere to earn a livehood for them. He asked her about their wellbeing. She said, “Praise belongs to Allah. We are well and contented.” He asked her about their sustenance and she said, “Meat”. He asked her what they had to drink. She said, “Water.” Ibrahim ‘Alaihi salaam said, “May Allah bless your meat and water for you! When your husband returns home, convey to him my salaam and advice him to retain the threshold of his home’s door.”
Isma’il ‘Alaihi salaam returned home and asked his wife if anyone had come home for him. She said, “A beautiful faced old man had come. He asked about you and our living. When I told him about it, he said that I should convey his greeting to you and advise you to retain the threshold of our door.” He disclosed to her that the man was his father and she was the threshold of the door that the had advised him to retain. Allah, the Exalted, blessed them with twelve noble sons.²
There have always been grumblig women. They do not express gratitude to their Lord but complain of poverty and guarre with their husband whose life they turn into Hell. Men should divorce such women.
2. THE WOMAN WHO ADORNS HERSELF
I the beginning of the twentieth century, a movement for the freedom of women was launched with the basic objective of driving women towards aberrant ways. This was patronised by Jews and Christians who made known that their ambition was to lead astray the aliens who were very devoted to their religion so that they keep away from their religion and feel shy to describe its salient features. They boasted that they had converted many to atheism.
Anna Mieljan proposed that Islam could be wiped out – we seek refuge in Allah from such thought – in a short time by admitting Muslim girls to missionary schools within Muslim countries. She disclosed that missionary schools were primariy opened with this end in mind. Muslim women could be mpulded in such a way that they do not distinguish between right and wrong and between modesty ad shame. ³
Qasim Amin and his henchmen have also played a very effective role in misguiding women. He had written a book, ‘The Modern Woman’, in 1900 and by time he died in 1901 his efforts had achieved considerable response. Two women – Hadi Sha’radi and Sazanbaradi – demonstrated trampling of their veil under their feet in 1923 before the delegates of an International women’s conference in Rome. The war against the veil had crossed the boundaries of Islamic countries like Turkey and Iran where the cruel Kamal Ataturk and Raza Shah Pehlavi compelled the Turk and Iranian women to cast off the veil. Turkey was once the centre of the caliphate, but now it houses certain places where women are displayed like merchandise. Is this the meaning of freedom of women ? Certainly, all religions have prescribed the veil for women throughout ages and the Prophet ﷺ had also received the command to enforce the veil on all Muslim women. In the veil lies all good. We read in the Qur’an:
يَـٰٓأَيُّہَا ٱلنَّبِىُّ قُل لِّأَزۡوَٲجِكَ وَبَنَاتِكَ وَنِسَآءِ ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنِينَ يُدۡنِينَ عَلَيۡہِنَّ مِن جَلَـٰبِيبِهِنَّۚ ذَٲلِكَ أَدۡنَىٰٓ أَن يُعۡرَفۡنَ فَلَا يُؤۡذَيۡنَۗ
“O’ Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the Believers to draw their outer garments close round them (when they go out on purpose). That would not be more likely that they may be recognised and not annoyed…[QS.33:59]
Helen Stanbery has aptly described the plight of the Western society. When she was asked about Egyptian women whom she had observed, she said:
“The Muslim society is perfect and sound society. It is natural that we adopt its customs and etiquettes that restrict young people within a reasonable limit. Let us return to the times ofthe veil. It is much better than the present shameless indecency that abounds in Europe and America. Avoid the intermingling of sense. We have endured it much in America which society is immensely immodest.”
Salamat Musa has also spoken about immodesty. He said:
“One of the tokens of progress is that men and women must be well-acquainted with western mode of dance and must have experienced it.”
Allah says in the Qur’àn:
قُل لِّلۡمُؤۡمِنِينَ يَغُضُّواْ مِنۡ أَبۡصَـٰرِهِمۡ وَيَحۡفَظُواْ فُرُوجَهُمۡۚ ذَٲلِكَ أَزۡكَىٰ لَهُمۡۗ إِنَّ ٱللَّهَ خَبِيرُۢ بِمَا يَصۡنَعُونَ (٣٠) وَقُل لِّلۡمُؤۡمِنَـٰتِ يَغۡضُضۡنَ مِنۡ أَبۡصَـٰرِهِنَّ وَيَحۡفَظۡنَ فُرُوجَهُنَّ وَلَا يُبۡدِينَ زِينَتَهُنَّ إِلَّا مَا ظَهَرَ مِنۡهَاۖ
“Say to the believing men that they lower their gaze and guard their private parts. That is purer for them. Surely Allah is Aware of what they do. And say to the believing women that they lower their gaze and guard their private parts and display not their adornment except what appears thereof.” [QS.24:30-31]
If a woman shuns the veil to show off her adornment (to strangers) than that deprives her of Paradise. The Prophet ﷺ said:
“There are two kinds of the dwellers of Hell whom I have not seen. Those who will hold whips like the tails of oxen with which they will strike the people. And the women who will wear garments yet be nude, they will be inclined and they will seduce and their heads will be like the humps of red camels. They will not enter Paradise nor feel its wind though it is felt at very long distances.” 4
>> THE FIRST KIND
These people who will beat others with their whips represent the rulers and their forces.
>> THE SECOND KIND
They are women who will uncover some portions of their bodies and cover others according to their sensual desires. This is تـَبـَرٌ جُ (display of beauty, as state in the Qur’àn).
The foregoing Hadith says that such women will not enter Paradise – nay, not even smell its fragnance. Today, they move about without the veil and uncovered head and on top of it claim that they possess modesty and are regular in observing fasts and salah and recital of the Qur’àn. But they neglect the hijab; whole body including the head must be covered – the face and hands excepted.5
This kind of woman lays claim to piety though she neglects the veil. We read in the foregoing Hadith that neglect of the veil efaces the advantage of pious deeds like fasting, prayer, Hajj, Umrah, zikr and others.
In fact, the guardian of a woman who does not cover her body is also a flesh-pedlar who will not be admitted to Paradise on whose gates will be inscribed, “Cuckolds are disallowed entry.” A cuckold is one who does not insist on modesty of his wife. What can be more immodest for a man that to let his wife move about unveiled? The Prophet ﷺ said,
“My ummah will enter Paradise – all of them, save those who reject” Someone asked, “O Messenger of Allah! Who rejects?” he said, “He who obeys me will enter Paradise but he who disobeys me has rejected.”6
3. THE WOMAN WHO APES MEN, TATTOOS, CUTS HAIR SHORT AND ALTERS NATURE
The Hadith explicitly disallow women to behave as men in their gait, appearance and dress, and men to adopt effiminate characteristics. Such men and women are accursed. This means that they are deprived of Allah’s mercy and of Paradise. The Prophet ﷺ has said,
“Allah has cursed the women who imitate men and the men who imitate women.”7
In these time, there are many women who resemble men in dress as also men who take up resemblance to women in walk, speech and character. There is no dert of men who imitate women in dress, habits and appearance. Of the women who are liable to be cursed is one who refuses her husband’s advances for a sexual intercourse, saying that she is experiencing menses. The Prophet ﷺ said,
“Allah has cursed the mughassalah whose husband calls her but she pleads that she has menses.”8 The mughassalah is a woman who pleads that she is menstruating.
Allah has also cursed the woman who tattoos and who asks for it. He has also cursed woman who plucks hairs from her eye brows and face and who asks for it to make herself look beautiful. He has also cursed the woman who makes spaces between her teeth for beauty and who changes what Allah has created.9
A word سـا لـقـه is used in Hadith. It means, ‘a woman who shrieks at the time of distress’. Allah has cursed the woman who beats her face when a calamity descends on her and tears her garment at the collar, and the woman who utters blasphemy and wails. The Prophet ﷺ said,
“Allah has cursed the woman who scratches her face, tears her garment at the collar, wails and utters words of pre-Islamic days.”10
The cursed women include those who are dressed yet nude. Allah’s Messenger ﷺ has commanded that such women must be cursed.
Sayyidina Ibn Umar Radiyallahu Anhu narrated that Allah’s Messenger ﷺ said,
“In the last days, there will be women who will ride like men. They will alight at the door of the mosque, though dressed but nude. Their head will be like the hump red camels. Curse such women, for they are accursed. If there was an ummah after you, then these women would have served them just as the women of the ummah before you serve you.”
Those women are very common in current times. They visit the mosques where there are shrines of Sayyidina Husayn Radiyallahu Anhu and Sayyidah Zaynab Radiyallahu Anha – for example. They stand there in such a manner that they are semi nude. They are adorned and make suppication to other than Allah. This is sheer disbelief and polytheism. لا حـو ل و لا قـو ة ا لا بـا لـلـه – there is no power and no might save with Allah.
4. WOMEN WHO KILL ANIMALS & BIRDS
There are women who are careless in looking after pets. They neither feed them nor allow them to look for their food themselves.
The Prophet ﷺ has described a woman who matched this description. The Prophet ﷺ said,
“A woman was sent to Hell because of a cat. She had bound a cat and she did not feed her nor unbound her that she might fetch her own food-of the insects (etc). As a result the cat died.”11
Thus , it is the responsibility of the woman who keeps pets to look after them. They are creatures about whom she will be asked. If one has to keep pets then one must ensure that they are fed regularly lest they come to harm. If that cannot be done then the pets may be set free to mend for themselves.
5. POLYTHEIST AND HYPOCRITE WOMAN
Polytheism is a grave sin. It causes the polytheist to go to Hell forever. Allah has said that He will never forgive polytheism. The Prophet ﷺ said,
“If anyone dies while he had been associating with Allah then he will go to Hell. The narrator of the Hadith Ibn Mas’ud Radiyallahu Anhu said, “I say that if anyone dies while he does not associate anything with Allah then he will go to Paradise.”12
When Allah’s Messenger ﷺ was asked about major sins, he mentioned four grave sins. One of these was ascribing partners to Allah. He said,
“They are: to associate anything with Allah, to disobey parents, to kill someone and to give false testimony.”13
Hypocrisy is also ike polytheism. Both the hypocrite and the poytheist will be consigned to the depth of Hell. There are three major signs of hypocrisy. They are: to lie when speaking, to misapprociate a trust and to breach a promise. The word ‘trust’ has a wide meaning and it could be wealth or secret which he may misapprociate or disclose. The Prophet ﷺ mentioned these three signs.14
Similarly, to forge a lie against Allah’s Messenger ﷺ is also instrumental in consigning the liar to Hell. The Prophet ﷺ said,
“The biggest lie is that a person is ascribed to someone other than his own father, or he sees what his eyes have not seen, or he ascribes to me that which I have not said.”15
He also said, “If anyone knowingly forges a lie against me then he must look for a place for him in Hell.”
او كـمـا قـا ل ءـلـيـه الـصـلـو ة و الـسـلا م
Or, as the Prophet ﷺ said.
It is a great lie to relate a person to someone other than his father as ignorant people do now-a-days. For instance, when anyone cannot arrange for sustenance for his children then he gets adopted parents for them, or if a man or woman knows that they cannot have their own children then they adopt someone else’s children. They are then described as their own children. Islam has forbidden this practice. One who does that will be eligible for Hell because he contrarenes the command of Allah and His Messenger ﷺ. But, if anyone repents his mistake and makes amends then the warning does not apply to him.
6. INDECENT WOMAN
The Qur’àn has placed the woman who commits adultery and who associates with Allah in the same category as those with whom a man cannot marry. Allah, the Majestic, says:
ٱلزَّانِى لَا يَنكِحُ إِلَّا زَانِيَةً أَوۡ مُشۡرِكَةً۬ وَٱلزَّانِيَةُ لَا يَنكِحُهَآ إِلَّا زَانٍ أَوۡ مُشۡرِكٌ۬ۚ وَحُرِّمَ ذَٲلِكَ عَلَى ٱلۡمُؤۡمِنِينَ (٣
The adulterer weds not but an adultaress or an associatoress, and the adultress – none weds her but an adulterer or an associator; and that is forbidden to the believers. [QS.24:3)
The Prophet ﷺ has also indicated that an aduterer does not remain a believer while he is commiting adultery. He thus said that this deed is alien to Believers. He said,
“An adulterer is not a believer while he commits adutery and a thief is not a believer when he steals. And an alcoholic is not a believer when he consumes wine. And a plunderer is not a believer when he plunders and people look at him with raised eyes.”16
Allah, the Exalted has said:
وَٱلَّذِينَ لَا يَدۡعُونَ مَعَ ٱللَّهِ إِلَـٰهًا ءَاخَرَ وَلَا يَقۡتُلُونَ ٱلنَّفۡسَ ٱلَّتِى حَرَّمَ ٱللَّهُ إِلَّا بِٱلۡحَقِّ وَلَا يَزۡنُونَۚ وَمَن يَفۡعَلۡ ذَٲلِكَ يَلۡقَ أَثَامً۬ا (٦٨) يُضَـٰعَفۡ لَهُ ٱلۡعَذَابُ يَوۡمَ ٱلۡقِيَـٰمَةِ وَيَخۡلُدۡ فِيهِۦ مُهَانًا (٦٩) إِلَّا مَن تَابَ وَءَامَنَ وَعَمِلَ عَمَلاً۬ صَـٰلِحً۬ا
“And those who call not upon another God with Allah, and slay not the soul that Allah has forbidden, except by right, nor commit adutery; and he who does this shall meet the requital of sin – the chastisement shall be doubled for him on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide therein humuliated – except him who repents, and believes, and does righteous deeds…” [QS.25:68-70]
Both the immoral man and woman are liable to go to Hell. However, if they repent and do righteous deeds – or have been punished in the world as prescribed by Shari’ah – then this warning does not apply to them.
During the Mi’raj, the Prophet ﷺ saw some people who had before them excellent and savoury meat and also, to a side, bad smelling meat. He asked Jibril about them. He informed the Prophet ﷺ,
“They are those who ignore the women whom Allah has made lawluf for them only to go to the women whom Allah has forbidden for them.”
The Prophet ﷺ also asked about the women who were suspended by their breasts. So, Jibril informed him that these women brought to men those who were not their (the men’s) offspring. (They were sined by someone else).
These indecent people will be punished in the Hereafter severely. However, those who repent from their sins and turn to the Forgiving and Merciful Lord are safe from these meanings.
7. ARROGANT WOMAN
Whether a man is arrogant or a woman, both are equally specimens of Hell. Arrogance is disliked by Allah and His Messenger ﷺ, and people also hate it. An arrogant person imagines that he is superior to everyone. The Prophet ﷺ has said warning his ummah,
“If anyone has pride even as much as a grain of mustard seed then Allah will fling him in Hell face down.”17
The Prophet ﷺ also said,
“He will not enter Paradise who has so much as a grain of pride in him.”18
Arrogance is found in words, deeds and character. It is a despised trait though it might be an atom’s worth. Why should a person be arrogant? He is created from a drop of semen and carries impurities in his whole body. We know from Hadith that a proud person will not enter Paradise. The proud will be admitted to Hell. They may be men or women.
8. THE QUARRELSOME WOMAN
What man utters with his tongue is either advantageous to him and to others or wicked and accountable. Except for remembrance of Allah, every kind of excesive speech is a waste of time and harmful. Allah’s Messenger ﷺ explained it in one of his sayings. He said,
“He who talks much commints many mistakes. And, if he makes many mistakes then he will commit many sins. And, he who has many sins against him is more worthy of Hell.”19
Sometimes it is good to talk but silence is safe. However, remembrance of Allah and defance of truth is exampted (from this axiom). The Prophet ﷺ said about it,
“May Allah have mercy on the person who when he speaks derives benefit or observes silence against evil talk and becomes secure.”20
It happens that a negligent person ridicules a religious practice or is rude to someone because of which he deserves to go to Hell. The Prophet ﷺ said about this thing,
“Sometimes one utters unintentionally what pleases Allah Who exalts him in rank because of that. (In the same ways) he utters, in a moment of negligence, what displeases Allah because of which he goes to Hell.”21
There is an ancient saying:
لـسـا نـك حـصـا نـك ان صـنـتـه صـا نـك
Your tongue is your horse. If you preserve it, it will preserve you.
9. DISOBEDIENT WIFE
If a woman obeys her husband, offers salah five times a day, keeps fast in Ramadhan, observes what Allah has enjoined and forbidden then by Allah’s will she will enter Paradise.
On the other hand, she who is disobedient to her husband will enter Hell even she is careful about salah, fasting and other duties to Allah. A woman’s entry into Paradise is dependent on her husband’s pleasure. The Prophet ﷺ said:
“Whichever woman dies having her husband pleased with her will enter Paradise.”22
However, obedience to a husband is conditional to obedience to Allah. If it involves disobedience to Allah then it is not allowed to obey the husband, it is forbidden to obey a creature at the cost of obedience of Allah. Thus, if a husband asks his wife to cast away her veil, she should not obey him because he asks her to disobey Allah and unless he repents he will remain in the purview of a cuckold. As long as he commands what is reputable, it is wajib to obey him.
فَإِنۡ أَطَعۡنَڪُمۡ فَلَا تَبۡغُواْ عَلَيۡہِنَّ سَبِيلاًۗ
“…Then if they obey you, seek not any way against them…” [QS.4:34]
The Prophet ﷺ said:
“If I were to order anyone that he should prostrate himself before anyone, I would order the woman that she should prostrate herself before her husband.”23
The Prophet ﷺ also said:
“When the man invites his wife to his bed, but she refuses to come and he spends the night angry, the angels curse her till it is morning.”24
He also said:
“It is not allowed to a woman to keep a fast while her husband is there without his permission.”25
This applies to supeerogatory fasts. However, she must keep the obigatory fast whether her husband is at home or not.
HOW MAY A WOMAN KEEP AWAY FROM
Allah’s Messenger ﷺ said:
“O company of women! Give charity often because I saw women in a majority in Hell.”
When the Prophet ﷺ went on Mi’raj, he saw Paradise and Hell. He saw more women in Hell, so he ordered them to give charity to save themselves from Hell. Charity is a means of purity from sin and deiverance form Allah’s punishment.
Allah has said:
خُذۡ مِنۡ أَمۡوَٲلِهِمۡ صَدَقَةً۬ تُطَهِّرُهُمۡ وَتُزَكِّيہِم بِہَا
“Take alms out of their riches that you may cleanse them…” [QS.9:103]
Sadaqah keeps Allah’s punishment away. If a woman is poor and cannot give charity then she may make zikr and istighfar often. (that is, remember Allah and seek forgiveness).
A woman must not be the devil’s help. She must devote herself to obey Allah and refrain from pursuing her lustful desires. According to traditions, certain things will transpire before the Last Hour. Knowledge will be withdrawn, ignorance will preval, adultery will be commited often, wine will be consumed commonly and there will be more women and fewer men.
Anas ibn Maalik Radiyallahu Anhu narrated:
“I heard Allah’s Messenger ﷺ say – and no one will narrate this Hadith to you after me – “Withdrawal of knowledge, prevelance of ignorance, predominance of adutery, prepondernace of wine -drinking, scarcity of men and large number of women so that there will be one man to look after fifty women – are signs of the Last Hour.”26
Withdrawal of knowledge will be through death of the Ulama (scholars). Ignorance will be rampant through emergence of false claimants to knowledge who will issue rulling on the basis of their personal whimps. Adultery will spread and wine will be consumed freely. This will invite Allah’s wrath and cause ruin. Aiysha Radiyallahu Anha asked Allah’s Messenger ﷺ,
“Will we be destroyed despite the presence of pious people among us?” He said, “Yes, when wickedness is abundant.”27 This refers to – abudance of adultery.
As for fifty women depending on one man, it does not mean that one man will marry fifty women.
SOME EXCELLENT WOMEN
How many women there are in the world who are perfect! We cannot count them. However, the Prophet ﷺ – giver true information – has named them.
“The best women of the world are four: Maryam bint Imran, Aasiyah wife of Fir’awn, Khadijah bint Khuwayid and Fatimah bint Muhammad.”28
There have been perfect men in large numbers. But among women none attained perfection except Maryam bint Imran and Aasiyah wife of Fir’awn and Aysha’s excellence over women is like the excellence of tharid over other kinds of food.”29
Men’s perfection is because if various reasons: intelligence, reigion, etc. But, it is least found in women. At most, four women have this perfection. According to one Hadith they are the chief of all women. The Prophet ﷺ said:
“The chief of women of Paradise after Maryam are Fatimah, Khadijah and the wife of Fir’awn, Aasiyah.”
1. Mustadrak Hakim
2. “Stories of the Prophets”, Ibn Khatir – English Translation p.160, Darul Isha’at, Karachi
3. Anna Mieljan is a Christian missionary
4. Muslim, narrated by Abu Hurayrah Radiyallahu Anhu
5. The Ulama hold that the face should be veiled in time of mischief (Muhammad Anas)
6. Bukhari as narrated by Abu Hurayrah Radiyallahu Anhu
7. Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood, Ibn Majah
8. Abdur Razzaq (da’f ul-jami – 4689)
9. Bukhari #4886, Muslim #2125-120, Abu Dawood #4169, Ibn Majah #1989, Darami #2647, Musnad Ahmad 1:415
10. Ibn Majah, Tabarani Kabir. The wailing woman is one who describes the good qualities of the dead raising, her voice in competition with others. The Prophet ﷺ said, “If the wailing – woman does not repent before she dies then she will be made to stand on the Day of Resurrection between Paradise and Hell. Her dress will be of pitch and the fire will cover her face.” Tabarani Kabir.
11. Bukhari, Ahmad
16. Bukhari, Muslim, Abu Dawood, Musnad Ahmad
20. Ibn Mubarak, Bayhaqi
21. Bukhari #6477, Muslim #50-2988, Tirmidhi #23319, Ibn Majah #3969, Muwatta Imam Maik #5, Musnad Ahmad 3/469
22. Tirmidhi #1161, Ibn Majah #1854
23. Tirmidhi #1159
24. Bukhari #3237, Muslim #1272/1436, Abu Dawood #2141, Darami #2228, Ahmad 2/439
25. Bukhari #5195, Muslim #84/1026, Abu Dawood #2458, Tirmidhi #782, Ibn Majah #1761, Darami #1720, Ahmad 2/444
26. Bukhari #80, Muslim #9/2671, Abu Dawood #60, Tirmidhi #2205, Nasa’i #4456, Ibn Majah #4045, Darami #476, Ahmad 3/176
27. Bukhari #3346, Muslim #2/288
28. Tirmidhi, Musnad Ahmad, Ibn Asakir
29. Bukhari #3411, Muslim #70/2431, Tirmidhi #1834, Ibn Majah #3280, Ahmad 4/394
Taken from the book “WOMEN WHO DESERVE TO GO TO HELL” written by Mansoor Abul Hakim, p.21-35, Darul Ishaat, Karachi, Pakistan